Rabindranath Tagor
Hey Reader,
When you embark on a healing journey, the idea is to, at least at some point, begin to feel better, right?
Well, that's what I thought.
I want to tell you about the time I met this Shaman in Bali. It was a bit of an adventure.
I'd almost given up on the idea of us ever connecting because I had left several messages without a callback.
But then, out of the blue, a British woman called me and gave me a specific timeframe to meet with him. I thought this was it.
I remember sitting in the courtyard of his Balinese home, just watching him smoke a cigarette.
When he asked me why I was there, I simply said, "I just want to feel better."
And that's when he hit me with the unexpected.
He told me that he couldn't make that happen because it wasn't in his hands.
I felt a bit deflated.
As my journey continued, it wasn't the smooth ride I'd hoped for. Instead of things getting better, they got more challenging.
There were moments where it felt like I was going backwards, and others where I was just stuck, not moving at all.
Doubts started to creep in.
I began to question whether all the effort I was putting into this healing journey was really worth it, especially when I wasn't seeing any immediate "results."
I'd initially thought the Shaman could fix everything, but that really wasn't how it worked.
And then, I had a lightbulb moment that changed everything.
It was at that moment I found myself trapped in what felt like the matrix's relentless programming, where we’re always asking, "What's in it for me?"
I mistakenly saw this journey as a transaction, thinking I should get something tangible in return for my "hard work."
In other words, I should be feeling "better" so this healing journey could end because I was doing all of the things.
But, I soon realized that that's not exactly how the evolution of one’s soul actually works.
I needed to unlearn that programming..
Eventually, with time and after some powerful lessons learned, I had another revelation.
This journey isn't about worthiness or immediate rewards.
Not one bit.
It's about growth and embracing new levels of consciousness which means embracing new levels of challenges.
I thought, if I felt caught up by the endless loop of healing, surely others would too.
So, I'm curious..
Have you ever found yourself questioning the worth of your own healing journey?
Meaning does it feel like it “shouldn’t” take this long or it “shouldn’t” be this hard?
I mean don’t get me wrong, it's entirely natural to wonder, "What am I gaining from all this work?"
After all, we're conditioned to expect instant gratification.
However, personal growth often requires a different set of footsteps and often zero expectations.
If this resonates with you and you’re feeling like this healing journey is starting to feel like an endless loop then this video: When Healing Feels Like an Endless Journey: A Reframe, might provide you with a powerful reframe that will help you to keep going.
Because in the end, it really is indeed worth every bit of the tears and frustration (and relief).
With Love Tribe,
Frantzces
You can read all the books. Do all the healing. Know exactly what needs to change. And still feel stuck. I’ve been a therapist for over 20 years. After grief cracked everything open, I left the U.S. and began a nomadic journey through 25+ countries. I thought I was starting over, but the patterns I hadn’t faced kept following me. Eventually, running turned into listening. Grief became growth. What felt like hesitation revealed something deeper, a part of me that didn’t feel ready yet. Now I help people who are tired of hesitating, overthinking, or holding back. Not because they don’t know what to do, but because something deeper still needs tending. What I share here helped me move forward when I didn’t think I could. Maybe it will meet you there too.
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