You can read all the books. Do all the healing. Know exactly what needs to change. And still feel stuck. I’ve been a therapist for over 20 years. After grief cracked everything open, I left the U.S. and began a nomadic journey through 25+ countries. I thought I was starting over, but the patterns I hadn’t faced kept following me. Eventually, running turned into listening. Grief became growth. What felt like hesitation revealed something deeper, a part of me that didn’t feel ready yet. Now I help people who are tired of hesitating, overthinking, or holding back. Not because they don’t know what to do, but because something deeper still needs tending. What I share here helped me move forward when I didn’t think I could. Maybe it will meet you there too.
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Look deep into nature, and then you will understand everything better.Albert Einstein Hey Reader, As we settle deeper into autumn, November invites us to pause and reflect on the strength we’ve built along the way. It reminds us that life moves in cycles—seasons of growth, seasons of reflection, and seasons of stillness. These cycles teach us the importance of letting go, embracing rest, and preparing for new growth. It’s also a season to express gratitude—not just for the material possessions we hold but also for the resilience we’ve nurtured through our healing journeys and obstacles we’ve overcome. During this time, you might be feeling a longing for something different or hoping to change certain parts of your day-to-day. It’s completely normal to crave a shift, no matter where you are in your journey. Maybe you have big financial goals, dreams of healthier relationships, or envision a vibrant life on a farm somewhere overseas with a bunch of animals (okay, maybe that’s just me 👀 😂). These dreams are not just fantasies, though, but potential realities waiting to be realized. Yet the most challenging question we often face when we think about our lives is: how can we bridge the gap between where we are and where we want to be? How do we make that seemingly impossible leap? I remember watching a video some time ago asking if we had everything we’ve ever wanted, would we be ready to receive it? For instance, if the love of your life knocked on your door today, could you invite them in for a cup of coffee? Like, is your home ready to receive company? Or, if all your financial worries disappeared overnight and you received a large sum of money today, would you know how to manage it? What’s your money story? How is your relationship with money right now? These questions are not intended to pressure you; rather, they serve as a reminder that simply wanting something isn’t enough for it to appear in our lives. So, perhaps now isn’t the time to pursue 'the thing.' Maybe it’s a time to pause, acknowledge, and celebrate how far you’ve come. Recognizing and appreciating your progress is a crucial part of the journey. So often, we rush past the things that deserve recognition because we’re always looking ahead to the next goal, the next milestone, or we’re ruminating about what hasn’t happened yet. Instead of doing that, what if we did something slightly different? What if Reader, for the rest of the year, you took some time to really focus on introspection and contemplation? It might be just what you need. During this contemplative time, think of yourself as the leaves changing and falling in autumn. Like nature, we experience periods of dormancy, and this season reminds us to turn inward and do the inner work. This season teaches us to let go of what no longer serves us—old versions of ourselves—making room for new possibilities to emerge. Winter, often seen as cold and dark, has quiet energy that encourages us to nurture ourselves in this stillness, knowing that we will bloom again when the time is right. Growth doesn’t always show up on the surface immediately, but trust that it's happening. The roots are deepening, and seeds of potential are resting, waiting for spring to bring them to life. This leads me to ask: if we’re focusing on what’s next, when does true growth actually take place? Both seasons are essential for our personal evolution, again showing us that life is a continuous cycle of letting go, resting, and renewing. As we embrace this season, take a moment to give thanks for your resilience, reflect on your journey, and let the cycles of nature guide you in letting go and preparing for your bloom. Remember, rest and reflection are not luxuries. They are necessities for personal growth and renewal. To support you in this season, I’ve put together a special downloadable worksheet designed to guide you through this season of stillness, reflection, and contemplation. This worksheet includes practical exercises and prompts designed to help you:
It’s available for a limited time, so make sure to grab it while you can. Once the seasons shift, so does access to this worksheet. Remember to let me know what comes up for you as you read this. You can respond directly to this email. Lastly, I would love for you to share your experience with the worksheet in a few months after you complete it. With Love, |
Defying Resistance
You can read all the books. Do all the healing. Know exactly what needs to change. And still feel stuck. I’ve been a therapist for over 20 years. After grief cracked everything open, I left the U.S. and began a nomadic journey through 25+ countries. I thought I was starting over, but the patterns I hadn’t faced kept following me. Eventually, running turned into listening. Grief became growth. What felt like hesitation revealed something deeper, a part of me that didn’t feel ready yet. Now I help people who are tired of hesitating, overthinking, or holding back. Not because they don’t know what to do, but because something deeper still needs tending. What I share here helped me move forward when I didn’t think I could. Maybe it will meet you there too.
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Holding on is believing that there's only a past; letting go is knowing that there's a future. Daphne Rose Kingma Hey Reader, Pressure’s in the air, and I thought I’d say something about it. I don’t want you to finish this year strong. I want you to finish it light. Lighter than a feather, floating effortlessly to the ground. You’ve probably been hearing it all month: "Finish the year strong." "Push to the finish line." Everywhere you turn, someone’s telling you to sprint, to hustle, to end...